Learning to enjoy your own company can be a valuable skill that promotes personal growth and mental wellbeing. While it may seem intimidating or lonely at first, being comfortable with solitude can ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and peaceful life. Here are some tips on how to learn to enjoy time on your own:
1. Start small
If the idea of being alone for extended periods of time makes you feel uneasy, start by spending small amounts of time on your own. For example, you could take yourself out for a coffee or lunch break, go for a walk in nature, or try a new hobby that you can do solo.
2. Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness meditation is an excellent way to cultivate self-awareness and become more comfortable with your thoughts and emotions. By practicing mindfulness regularly, you can learn to be present in the moment and appreciate your surroundings without the need for external distractions.
3. Engage in self-care
Taking care of your physical and mental health is essential for feeling good about yourself and enjoying time alone. Make sure to exercise, eat nutritious foods, and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
4. Develop a solo hobby
Finding a hobby that you enjoy doing alone can be a great way to learn to enjoy time on your own. Consider taking up a creative pursuit like painting, drawing, or writing, or learning a new skill like cooking or gardening.
5. Connect with yourself
Spend time reflecting on your values, goals, and interests. Journaling or creating a vision board can be a helpful way to connect with yourself and gain a better understanding of what brings you fulfillment and happiness.
6. Embrace solitude
It's important to reframe your mindset around being alone. Instead of thinking of it as a negative experience, embrace solitude as a valuable opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
7. Seek support if needed
Be aware of signs that you are struggling to enjoy time on your own. This can look like making sure your calendar is very busy to avoid any down time on your own. It can also look like feeling nervous in anticipation of an evening or weekend with little organised. You may also notice a sense of urgency to schedule something else in if a plan is cancelled. If you find that you're struggling to enjoy time on your own, seek support from a mental health professional. They can help you work through any underlying fears or anxieties that may be holding you back.
Learning to enjoy time on your own can be a transformative experience that enhances your overall wellbeing and personal growth. By following these tips and being patient with yourself, you can develop a greater sense of self-awareness, self-love, and contentment in your own company.
If this is something you struggle with and you would like to talk to someone, please don’t hesitate to give our team a call on (03) 9882 8874 or email admin@melbournewellbeinggroup.com.au
This blog was written and prepared by Hannah Gersh – Psychologist at Melbourne Wellbeing Group.