Relational trauma, also known as interpersonal or complex trauma, refers to the psychological wounds that arise from abusive, neglectful, or dysfunctional early relationships. Unlike single-incident traumas, such as accidents or natural disasters, relational trauma occurs within the context of ongoing relationships, often involving caregivers, partners, family members, or peers.
The Impact of Relational Trauma:
Relational trauma can have far-reaching effects on an individual's emotional, cognitive, and relational functioning. Here are some common manifestations of relational trauma:
Attachment Difficulties: Traumatic experiences in early relationships (e.g., such as being exposed to constant arguing, being a constant emotional support person to one or both parents, being criticised, etc), can disrupt the development of secure attachment patterns, leading to difficulties in forming and maintaining healthy relationships.
Low Self-Esteem: Individuals who have experienced relational trauma may struggle with feelings of worthlessness, shame, and self-blame, internalizing the negative messages received from abusive or neglectful caregivers.
Emotional Dysregulation: Relational trauma can impair emotional regulation skills, resulting in intense and unpredictable emotions, such as anxiety, depression, anger, or dissociation.
Trust Issues: Traumatic betrayals in relationships can erode trust and lead to hyper vigilance, suspicion, and difficulty in trusting others, even in safe and supportive environments.
Boundary Violations: Survivors of relational trauma may have porous boundaries, struggling to assert their needs, set limits, and protect themselves from further harm.
Repetitive Patterns: Without intervention, individuals may unconsciously replicate dysfunctional relationship patterns from their past, perpetuating cycles of abuse, neglect, or codependency in their present day relationships.
Healing Relational Trauma:
While the effects of relational trauma can be profound and enduring, healing is possible with the right support and resources. Here are some ideas for navigating the healing journey:
Therapeutic Intervention: Working with a qualified therapist who specialises in trauma-informed care (such as our team members), can provide a safe and supportive space for processing traumatic experiences, exploring coping strategies, and building resilience.
Attachment Repair: Therapeutic interventions, such as attachment-focused therapy can help individuals repair disrupted attachment bonds, cultivate self-compassion, and develop healthier relational patterns.
Self-Care Practices: Engaging in self-care activities, such as mindfulness, meditation, building self-compassion, journaling, and creative expression, can promote emotional regulation, self-awareness, and inner healing.
Building Supportive Relationships: Cultivating connections with supportive friends, family members, or support groups can provide validation, empathy, and a sense of belonging, counteracting feelings of isolation and disconnection.
Education and Advocacy: Learning about relational trauma and its effects can empower you to advocate for yourself, challenge societal myths and stigmas surrounding trauma, and access appropriate resources and support services.
Relational trauma is a complex and multifaceted phenomenon that shapes people’s lives and relationships. By understanding its impact you can reclaim your own sense of identity, autonomy, cultivate resilience, and forge pathways toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships. If you need further support or want to explore the impact of relational trauma further, give our team a call on (03) 9882 8874 to book an appointment.
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This blog was written and prepared by Dr Celin Gelgec – Clinic Director and Clinical Psychologist at Melbourne Wellbeing Group.
Disclaimer: The information provided in this blog is for educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional advice or therapy. If you or someone you know is experiencing trauma-related difficulties, please seek support from a qualified mental health professional.